As I get older I find myself wondering and reflecting on my journeys in life and I see myself seeking for understanding.
One part of these enlightening questions tend to be "why is it so easy for us to say goodbye". You observe with great happiness, a very wonderful and elaborate wedding between two people, few months later, not even years later you hear 'oh they are no longer together'.
We do not give each other any chance, or even, I can go as far as saying that we do not give us any chance to make amends, we quickly move on, either to someone else or to loneliness.
There is this lack of tendency to forgive, we all have our rights and perceptions of what a spouse should be or behave. And when the other person, who is not you, did not grow up with you, acts or behaves contrary to our set perceptions, we start looking for the door key to luck them out.
Someone once said that if we can love our spouse as we love our siblings, there will be less separations and divorces. There are so much we accept and tolerate from our siblings, parents, cousins etc that we refuse to accept from our spouses.
We forget that the perfect person is the dead one. Have you noticed that when someone dies they become "the most wonderful person" even when the person was evil personified when they were alive.
I admire people that:-
1) build their relationships through time,
2) allow the other person to grow into the relationship, bearing in mind that there is a need for growth for the two people involved in the relationship.
3) are able to accept that so long as we are alive and breathing we are bound to wrong someone, hence learn to humble ourselves to admit that we are wrong sometimes and apologise wholehearted to the other person.
