I have always been fascinated about the relationships I observe between Fathers and Daughters. One of these unique relationships in point are my Father and my Sister's relationship. My Sister told me great stories of happy moments with our father that I was not privy to as a male.
She seem to be able to speak candidly with him, share her woes and excitements, while he was able to discuss with her issues that he struggled to discuss with other people.
What creates this wonderful bonding experiences with Father and Daughter I wonder?
I spoke with one of my close friends, who was the only daughter in her family of many siblings that were boys. She expanded these phenomenon for me as follows:
"Look you need to know that when a girl is growing up she looks up to her father as the type of male she may end up with when she grows up. That initial attraction, if responded by the Father, she lavishes what seem to be the initial love on him and the father in return puts her on great pedal stool that will last for a life time".
There are slight issues with the statement above, not all Fathers have the discernment to see the infatuation of the Daughter as poppy love. Where this is the case, the daughter gets almost all that she wants, until she gets married. The concern is that, if not dealt with correctly, the daughter may continue to expect such preferential treatment in marriage, where she needs to possibly work more harder and together with the husband to get what they need together.
This also goes with Mothers that shower so much love to their sons that they remove them from having any responsibility for themselves. These children will grow up to find that life is not as rosy as it has been painted for them, hence, the constant struggle to maintain relationships, inability to stick together especially during difficult times.
If you can whether the storm during difficult times, on good times it becomes more fun that you both saw everything through together.
