The joys of parenting.
This is one job you will get neither a job description nor a manual, but it is one of the most important positions you can occupy in your life. In the animal Kingdom, it is said that the female picks who they met with very carefully, always looking out for the right one. Having found the one or 'the right one', you too will end up with the task of creating these specimen we call Children together. It falls apart when one is left to raise these Children on their own, either by being absent physically or responsively. Physical absence are parents that relinquish their whole responsibilities as parents and non-responsive parents are ones that although they are living with the Children play absolutely no part in disciplining or upbringing of the Children.
In the new age parenting we see some parents that desperately want their Children to love them, that they assume their Children are their equals or mates.
There is a need to have the understanding of who is the Parent and who is the Child. This demarcation is not drawn when the Child is old, this start from when the Child is a baby. Children like all human being will always push the boundaries of their environment to see how much they can get away with. Understanding this part of human nature, one needs to have rules. These should include the do's and don'ts in the house. When a baby is constantly crying, there is a reason for crying. As a parent we are to nature and bring our Children up right. That means ensure the baby is fed and kept clean and where the crying continues consult your Mid-wife.
When the child is growing up, there is a need for another type of discipline, teach the Child to learn politeness. (Although, the child will, majority of the times mirror your actions and behaviour and not necessary what you say to him/her). This starts with the Child obeying your instructions. In the first instance, when you ask a child to do something they may seek for reasons not to carry out the task. There is a need for you to inform the child that for not carrying out the task he/she will be forfeiting his/her comfortability. When a Child realises that he/she will not get away with disobeying you, they will grow up respecting authority. I read ones someone writing "if as a parent your child have not said to you ones that they hate you, you have not started parenting".
I have four Children, one of them once said to me "dad you not my friend, I answered him back saying being your dad is good enough for me, go and finish your task".
